Sunday, September 27, 2009
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Good points for Christian fathers
From: Ben Goh
Sent: Wednesday, September 23, 2009 3:39 AM
Subject: Good points for Christian fathers
Dear Tim, Daniel and Kian,
Hope all is well, I would like to forward this article that is pretty good for thoughts for us who are Christian fathers, we need some reminders, don't we? 
I need to remind myself not to provoke them to wrath but to bring them up in nurture and admonition of the Lord...the verse is in Ephesians 6:4 
-Ben-
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Date: Wed, Sep 23, 2009 at 3:15 PM
Subject: This weeks Facts of the Matter
To: ben.ck.goh@gmail.com
Good Morning!
My prayer is that you are having a great week!
R. Dwight Hill
From: <info@factsofthematter.org>
Date: Wed, Sep 23, 2009 at 3:15 PM
Subject: This weeks Facts of the Matter
To: ben.ck.goh@gmail.com
"THE FACTS OF THE MATTER"
"A weekly letter of encouragement to business and professional men and women"
September 23, 2009
Good Morning!
DADS, HERE EIGHT WAYS TO EXASPERATE YOUR CHILDREN:1
If you are a typical dad, you live with a lot of pressure in your work, and want desperately to prepare your kids for the tough realities of life. You want them to succeed. In your world of excellence, discipline, planning and perseverance, it is difficult not come down on your kids when you see them slouching toward mediocrity. Paul warns us, "Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (Eph. 6:4)." The Greek word for exasperate is parogizo, and literally means to anger, enrage, provoke to wrath. The dictionary adds words like infuriate, madden, frustrate and annoy. So just how do we do that? Here are eight ways:
Overprotection. We smother them by overly restricting them as to what they can do. We communicate lack of trust in allowing them to do things on their own, by forever challenging their judgment, rather than trusting them. Thus we inhibit their development in learning to make intelligent decisions on their own in keeping with their age and maturity level. We fail to guide rather than control their wills. It is intriguing to me that Christ released the disciples to accomplish his will with the simple instructions found in Matthew 28:18-20. Because he had built his values into their lives, he was able to risk the possibility of their failure by leaving the details to them.
Favoritism. Isaac favored Esau over Jacob and Rebekah preferred Jacob over Esau. When parents compare one child with another the results can be devastating. The less talented one may well become discouraged, bitter, withdrawn and resentful. Tragically, they will in kind express similar favoritism among their peers. I Corinthians 12-14 speaks of different giftedness, yet all are precious in God's eyes. In the parable of the talents (Matt. 25:14-30) it is obvious that not all are equally gifted. Yet there is no hint that God plays favorites. Nor should we.
Unreasonable expectations. That is, we push our children beyond reasonable bounds. Nothing the child does measures up to our expectations. How many parents have I observed who fantasize the accomplishment their own unfulfilled dreams through their child's athletic or academic success. I remember our son Wes, striking out all three times at bat in Little League. When the game was over he jumped into the car, and I asked him, "Did you have fun?" And, "Did you give it your best shot?" His answers to both questions was "Yes." With that I said, "Hey, let's go get some ice cream!"
Withholding compliments. I remember as a 14 year old winning several contests in selling newspaper subscriptions. My father's response, "Well, the newspaper business is kind of a second rate affair." Kids can be angered by this kind of discouragement. When children are forever told what is wrong rather than what is right, they lose hope and begin to believe that they are incapable of doing anything right. Both Titus and Philemon were great encouragers: " God, who encourages those who are discouraged, encouraged us by the arrival of Titus… I myself have gained much joy and comfort from your love, my brother, because your kindness has so often refreshed the hearts of God's people (2 Cor. 7:6; Phil. 1:7)." Surely we must do the same with our children.
Rejection. We're talking here about selfish parents living for themselves, and viewing their children as an intrusion on their lives. In time the children will reciprocate that rejection, viewing their ageing parents as an intrusion on their lives. A careful study of Psalm 112 gives us a beautiful picture of children as a wonderful, integral part of the family.
Demanding an unrealistic pace. We must allow kids to develop at their normal pace. And we have to let them act like kids, which at times will appear childish to us. While writing this "Facts," I had to call my 7 year old grandson and apologize to him for coming down hard on him last night while in the car. Hey, he was just acting like a normal high energy kid!
Manipulating with love. That is, dishing out love when they perform and withholding it when they don't. The message they get is that love is conditional, based on achievement. Consider Christ's unconditional love: "God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us ( Rom. 5:8)." Christ is our standard here!
Physical and verbal abuse. Gentleness is a fruit of the spirit. How easy it is to be harsh with your children, both verbally and physically. Sarcasm and put downs, come all to easily. Love "looks for a way of being constructive (I Cor. 13:4 Phil. Trans.)." (See Pro. 22:15; 23:13 ; 29:15)
1 Key ideas adapted from The MacArthur New Testament Commentary
My prayer is that you are having a great week!
R. Dwight Hill
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Thoughts from Man's heart
Thoughts from Man's heart
Thought 1
When we are born, our mothers get the compliments and the flowers.
When we are married, our brides get the presents and the publicity.
When we die, our widows get the life insurance.
What do women want to be liberated from?
Thought 2
The average man's life consists of:
Twenty years of having his mother ask him where he is going,
Forty years of having his wife ask the same question;
and at the end, the mourners wondering too where he is going.
Thought 3
Everyone in the wedding ceremony was watching the radiant bride as her father escorted her down the aisle to give away to the groom. They reached the altar and the waiting groom; the bride kissed her father and placed something in his hand. Everyone in the room was wondering what was given to the father by the bride..
The father could feel the suspense in the air and all eyes were on him to divulge the secret and say something. So he announced :
'Ladies and Gentlemen. Today is the luckiest day of my life ...' Then he raised his hands with what his daughter gave him and continued, 'My daughter finally, finally returned my Credit Card to me.'
The whole audience including the priest started laughing . . . . . But not the poor Groom ! ! !
Thought 4
A Man was walking down a street when he heard a voice from behind, 'If you take one more step, a brick will fall down on your head and kill you.'
The man stopped and a big brick fell right in front of him. The man was astonished. He went on, and after a while he was going to cross the road. Once again the voice shouted, 'Stop ! Stand still ! If you take one more step a car will run over you, and you will die.'
The man did as he was instructed, just as a car came careening around the corner, barely missing him. The man asked. 'Who are you?'
'I am your guardian angel,' the voice answered.
'Oh, yeah?' the man said 'And where the Hell were you when I got married?'
Thursday, September 3, 2009
我的马来文是一流
我的马来文是一流的!我的马来文是一流的请看:
1叫:杀兔
2叫:乳鹅
3叫:地个
4叫:安排
5叫:你妈
6叫:安南
7叫:毒酒
8叫:拉班
9叫:森美兰
10叫:石埔路
大叫:不杀
小叫:割鸡
死叫:抹地
吃叫:马干
洗叫:猪鸡
要叫:猫
不要叫:打猫
谢谢叫:带你妈看戏
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